How Therapy Helps When the Couple Wants a Divorce
Divorce often begins with pain. For many, there is a quiet sense of sadness and
a sense of helplessness. These feelings can be caused by the onset of physical and
emotional separation. For most couples, the pain and sadness can reach extraordinary
levels. Divorce often starts with a period of mourning. Sadness can be accompanied
by guilt and anger. Therapy can help you transition through this difficult period
by allowing you to express the full range of emotions. Can therapy help with depression
and loneliness? Once the sadness and pain of divorce begins to leave, there is often
an "identity" transition that follows. A two-person identity becomes a single identity.
This transition often means relinquishing the emotional dependency in favor of establishing
a new identity as a single person. This is often a painful process of self-discovery.
It may involve living in a new home, exploring new interests and activities, and
making new friends. It is crucial to get therapeutic support at this time.
Moving From Panic to Acceptance and Strength
THE STAGES OF DIVORCE are Panic, Denial, Rage, and Acceptance. You need a support
system to guide you through these stages because the earlier you understand this
process the more choice you will have about how to design the rest of your life.
As you start to move along the path of acceptance, when you least expect it you
will gain a sudden intuitive shift in the way you see yourself .You will then start
to see new possibilities that you have never seen before. This is the beginning
of a new chapter in your life and the feeling of new opportunities. Opportunities
come from crisis as the Chinese character for crisis is also the character for opportunity.
So that the greatest crisis in your life can become the greatest opportunity for
growth and expansion, it is essential to nurture yourself at this time with positive
support for your growth.